我和他除了宗教外
我們還討論最多的就是對於婚姻的看法了!
和他聊過彼此的想法後
發現中西文化對於sex marriage 看法真的是大不同
如果你有耐心的把我們的對話看完你就了解How do I feel...
Lennart:
I have been wondering, how do you feel about marriage?
(ow, that sounds weird...haha)
I mean: Do you think living together without marriage is ok? or do you
strictly believe that this can only happen after marriage?
In Netherlands living together is now very common. marriage is more
an option. However Christian people in Netherlands disagree with this.
Cherry:
About marriage, I think living together without marriage is strange.
Because people seldom live together without marriage in Taiwan,
that's why I think it is queer. Different opinion in different country,
I think it's ok in Netherlands but it's not be accepted by Taiwanese.
If I have a boyfriend and keep good relationship with him,
I think I will plan to get married. I think "Marriage is a promise".
I will be his wife and he will be my husband. We are lawful couple.
Are people in Netherlands open? I mean about relationship between men and women,
do men have sex with women easily? Are they easy?.....................
I want to know the idea of sex in western if you don't mind to tell me something like that.
Lennart:
About marriage..I can understand the way you feel about it. My parents (well my mother actually) is a Christian and they also
believe very strongly in marriage. However I think people over-value marriage. I see it as a great way to celebrate the love you allready share with another. But....it's no guarentee. I don't think married people have longer relationship then non-married people who live together. It's about loving someone, and altough marriage is great, and a wonderfull way to celebrate your love, and make a promise, when you don't love someone anymore, it will only hurt to be only bound by your promise, and it will not last, rather slow down seperation. Offcourse, this is all viewed from negative point of view, just to make my point.
It's also perfectly possible to stay together all your life, and marriage can be very happy that way.
I don't mind telling you about how dutch people and sexuality.
Most people have first time sexual experience around 15 or 16 in Netherlands.
Only strong religious people (some Christians) don't have sex untill marriage.
Dutch woman are not "easy" in that they have sex with everyone. offcourse there are exceptions
(Most dutch teens really go wild on holiday, this is quite common)
However, sex is regarded as very normal thing and is usually told about at a young age (13 or 14)
by parents. So how "easy" someone is about it, is really dependent on the person. it differs greatly from
one person to another, because there is no general form of rejection if you are easy or open about it.
Maybe you can tell how sexuality is viewed in Taiwan? i'am curious..
Cherry:
Taiwan is a conservative country. Most parents tell children that sex can be premitted after marriage.
People had better not make love before getting married.
To be a good girl, she should have first sex with her lawful husband.
Besides, parents worry about if their children have sex and pregnancy, it would be problem.
Because they are young and can't make a living by themselves, how can they live by themselves?
I agree you said that "So how "easy" someone is about it, is really dependent on the person.
It differs greatly from one person to another." It's really true.
Some people still have first sex with boyfriend/ girlfriend in Taiwan without parent's agreement.
There are different sexual idea between western and asian.
Lennart:
I feel Taiwan is very differend to pre-marriage love then Netherlands. Here it's very common to sleep with someone
even if you are not married. This is because marriage is become more and more of an option. But because it's still romantic and nice to have a marriage and be "husband and wife" officially, I guess it's still popular to get married. But many people allready live together when they marry.
There are some exceptions. Christian people and other religions in Netherlands usually prohibit sex before marriage.
But these are minority's. This changes very fast, because about 60 years back, Christian faith was big majority in Netherlands.
To me, I feel that living together is not wrong. And if all goes well, you might concider marriage as next step.
How do you feel about this?
Cherry:
I think living together before getting marriage is better than living together after getting marriage.
Couple can know lots of private lifestyle each other by this way. But in Taiwan this way isn't be accepted by lots of parents.
If someone do that, they would have family-revolution. In Taiwan, this kind of idea of parents are not as same as western parents.
But they love their children just like western parents. Although I think living together before getting marriage is good way,
I still can't do that. That is the difference between Taiwan and western country.
Lennart:
I understand you story about living before marriage very well.
Also I see you cannot do this. You knew that only 2 generation ago in Netherlands this
was also next to impossible? it was not accepted. But this all changes with the sexual revelution
in the 1960-ies. Before this, Christian faith was very popular.
So I understand people who don't feel right about living together before marriage, it's quite
difficult to change this (even if you wanted to) if your family doens't think like this.
或許現在的年輕人對sex的想法跟我不同
(心中的OS:奇怪,我明明也是年輕人阿...)
because我家是那種很傳統的家庭...
因此我也是很保守的人
SO WHAT?
我只是把我的想法跟他share...
可能有些以偏概全...
畢竟有時候我真的覺得
這世界變了!
我們還討論最多的就是對於婚姻的看法了!
和他聊過彼此的想法後
發現中西文化對於sex marriage 看法真的是大不同
如果你有耐心的把我們的對話看完你就了解How do I feel...
Lennart:
I have been wondering, how do you feel about marriage?
(ow, that sounds weird...haha)
I mean: Do you think living together without marriage is ok? or do you
strictly believe that this can only happen after marriage?
In Netherlands living together is now very common. marriage is more
an option. However Christian people in Netherlands disagree with this.
Cherry:
About marriage, I think living together without marriage is strange.
Because people seldom live together without marriage in Taiwan,
that's why I think it is queer. Different opinion in different country,
I think it's ok in Netherlands but it's not be accepted by Taiwanese.
If I have a boyfriend and keep good relationship with him,
I think I will plan to get married. I think "Marriage is a promise".
I will be his wife and he will be my husband. We are lawful couple.
Are people in Netherlands open? I mean about relationship between men and women,
do men have sex with women easily? Are they easy?.....................
I want to know the idea of sex in western if you don't mind to tell me something like that.
Lennart:
About marriage..I can understand the way you feel about it. My parents (well my mother actually) is a Christian and they also
believe very strongly in marriage. However I think people over-value marriage. I see it as a great way to celebrate the love you allready share with another. But....it's no guarentee. I don't think married people have longer relationship then non-married people who live together. It's about loving someone, and altough marriage is great, and a wonderfull way to celebrate your love, and make a promise, when you don't love someone anymore, it will only hurt to be only bound by your promise, and it will not last, rather slow down seperation. Offcourse, this is all viewed from negative point of view, just to make my point.
It's also perfectly possible to stay together all your life, and marriage can be very happy that way.
I don't mind telling you about how dutch people and sexuality.
Most people have first time sexual experience around 15 or 16 in Netherlands.
Only strong religious people (some Christians) don't have sex untill marriage.
Dutch woman are not "easy" in that they have sex with everyone. offcourse there are exceptions
(Most dutch teens really go wild on holiday, this is quite common)
However, sex is regarded as very normal thing and is usually told about at a young age (13 or 14)
by parents. So how "easy" someone is about it, is really dependent on the person. it differs greatly from
one person to another, because there is no general form of rejection if you are easy or open about it.
Maybe you can tell how sexuality is viewed in Taiwan? i'am curious..
Cherry:
Taiwan is a conservative country. Most parents tell children that sex can be premitted after marriage.
People had better not make love before getting married.
To be a good girl, she should have first sex with her lawful husband.
Besides, parents worry about if their children have sex and pregnancy, it would be problem.
Because they are young and can't make a living by themselves, how can they live by themselves?
I agree you said that "So how "easy" someone is about it, is really dependent on the person.
It differs greatly from one person to another." It's really true.
Some people still have first sex with boyfriend/ girlfriend in Taiwan without parent's agreement.
There are different sexual idea between western and asian.
Lennart:
I feel Taiwan is very differend to pre-marriage love then Netherlands. Here it's very common to sleep with someone
even if you are not married. This is because marriage is become more and more of an option. But because it's still romantic and nice to have a marriage and be "husband and wife" officially, I guess it's still popular to get married. But many people allready live together when they marry.
There are some exceptions. Christian people and other religions in Netherlands usually prohibit sex before marriage.
But these are minority's. This changes very fast, because about 60 years back, Christian faith was big majority in Netherlands.
To me, I feel that living together is not wrong. And if all goes well, you might concider marriage as next step.
How do you feel about this?
Cherry:
I think living together before getting marriage is better than living together after getting marriage.
Couple can know lots of private lifestyle each other by this way. But in Taiwan this way isn't be accepted by lots of parents.
If someone do that, they would have family-revolution. In Taiwan, this kind of idea of parents are not as same as western parents.
But they love their children just like western parents. Although I think living together before getting marriage is good way,
I still can't do that. That is the difference between Taiwan and western country.
Lennart:
I understand you story about living before marriage very well.
Also I see you cannot do this. You knew that only 2 generation ago in Netherlands this
was also next to impossible? it was not accepted. But this all changes with the sexual revelution
in the 1960-ies. Before this, Christian faith was very popular.
So I understand people who don't feel right about living together before marriage, it's quite
difficult to change this (even if you wanted to) if your family doens't think like this.
或許現在的年輕人對sex的想法跟我不同
(心中的OS:奇怪,我明明也是年輕人阿...)
because我家是那種很傳統的家庭...
因此我也是很保守的人
SO WHAT?
我只是把我的想法跟他share...
可能有些以偏概全...
畢竟有時候我真的覺得
這世界變了!
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